Coping with a Loved One’s Diagnosis: Strategies for Emotional Resilience

Difficult diagnoses don’t just affect the person receiving them—they ripple across our lives. Here are three practical ways to protect your own well-being while you continue showing up for others and for yourself.

Our personal and professional lives are often more intertwined than we expect them to be. When difficult news about a loved one hits, it can feel harder to feel like your usual self, or to perform at work to your usual standards. We know that loved ones or caregivers may have both good and bad days, so try these tips to weather the bad days:

There is an age-old adage that’s says, “one cannot pour from an empty cup.” Take this to heart and remember that the importance of your self-care (e.g., sleep, activity, relaxation and staying in contact with others) is a non-negotiable while you process hard news or take care of others. Treat yourself with the respect and kindness that you would offer to others
If possible, confide in trusted others at work or in your personal life. Hiding can make you feel alone and can prevent us from receiving the support, accommodation and care that we need during difficult times
Limit unhelpful ways of coping, such as relying on substances, avoidance or negative self-talk

Dr. Shira Yufe is a Clinical Psychologist at Laksman Doell Psychology. She is interested in the intersection of our professional and personal lives, namely how work life can enhance or detract from one’s mental health. In addition to her clinical work, she lectures and provides talks in university and professional settings.